Mungkin anda pernah diajukan soalan , “kenapa masih belum berumahtangga lagi?” Jawapan yang lazim diberi adalah, “Tidak ada jodoh lagi..” Mungkin selepas ini anda akan mempunyai jawapan yang lebih sesuai ..
Jodoh, rezeki, ajal dan maut adalah takdir Allah s.w.t. Allah s.w.t telah berfirman di dalam surah Al-Hadid ayat 22, “Dialah yang menciptakan tiap-tiap sesuatu lalu menentukan keadaan makhluk-makhluk itu dengan ketentuan takdir yang sempurna.”
Di dalam kitab Fathul Bari, Al-Hafiz Ibnu Hajar mencerita bahwa seorang ulama sunni pernah berkata, “Jika Dia menghalangimu atas apa yang menjadi hakmu, beerti Dia telah menzalimimu; tetapi jika Dia menghalangi kerana sesuatu yang ada padaNya, maka sesungguhnya Dia memberikan rahmatNya kepada sesiapa saja yang dikehendakiNya.”
Jodoh kita telah pun ditentukan oleh tuhan. Apabila tuhan menghalangi sesuatu dari seseorang kerana kehendakNya, sudah tentu halangan tersebut merupakan “sesuatu yang terbaik”, kerana tuhan Maha Mengetahui. Apabila tuhan telah memutuskan “sesuatu yang terbaik” kepada makhlukNya, bermakna tuhan sedang melimpahkan rahmatNya kepada makhluk itu.
Mungkin selepas ini, ketika disoal oleh kaum keluarga dan sahabat-handai, “kenapa masih belum berumahtangga lagi?”, jawapan yang sesuai adalah, “semua ini adalah rahmat Allah.”
Wallahu’alam
Kenapa Masih Belum Berumahtangga ?
Jodoh Pertemuan, Yang Mana Menjadi Pilihan?
“Wan, aku tak jumpa la orang yang sesuai dengan aku..” keluh seorang sahabat padaku.
“Camne ye, aku tak jumpa r yang betul-betul baik kat sini, dengan kata lain, tak berkenan kat hati aku…” keluh seorang lagi..
Saban hari, pasti ada di antara kita yang mendengar keluhan-keluhan sebegini menari-nari di telinga kita. Seorang pemuda berusaha mencari ciri-ciri yang sesuai untuk dijadikan seorang teman hidup, tetapi disebabkan terlebih mencari, sehingga lupa tentang persiapan diri. Seorang pemudi pula mengharapkan seseorang yang sudi menjadi teman dikala sepi, penyempurna iman pada diri, dengan itu juga mencari, tercari-cari sehingga lupa bahawa diri masih tiada persiapan lagi. Akibatnya, keluhan sahaja yang saban hari menyusul dan menyusul.
Kekecewaan dalam mencari menyebakan ada yang sanggup buang jati diri, yang selama ini menjadi benteng dan juga maruah diri. Terus diambil yang mana dirasa boleh mengisi kekosongan hati. Tanpa usul periksa agama empunya diri. Hanyut, hanyut bersama dunia sendiri. Hanyut dengan perasaan dan hati. Sehingga sudah tidak boleh memikirkan realiti dan mimpi.
Mengapa Menjadi Lebih Baik dari Mencari ?
Mungkin aku bukanlah yang paling layak untuk bercerita tentang bab ini, tetapi apa yang telah dilalui sedikit sebanyak boleh sama-sama dikongsi untuk kebaikan bersama. Seorang lelaki , pemuda khususnya, tanyalah sesiapa yang digelar pemuda, jika ditanya tentang jodoh, pasti mereka akan menjawab mahukan isteri yang solehah, yang tahu jaga diri, yang pandai jaga hati mereka, yang cantik akhlak, yang tahu agama agar boleh bimbing mereka jika tersalah langkah. Aku tidak katakan semua yang mahukan semua pemuda mahukan ciri-ciri ini, tetapi majoriti, jika ditanya jauh di sudut hati pasti akan terbit jawapan-jawapan ini.
Memang susah untuk mencari golongan-golongan yang begini, calon-calon yang kita impikan. Tetapi jika sifat-sifat yang diimpikan pada pasangan itu kita terapkan pada diri, Mahukan yang solehah, berusaha menjadi soleh, mahukan yang pandai menjaga hati kita, kita berusaha menjaga hati orang-orang disekeliling kita, bila kita betul-betul berusaha ke arah kebaikan, pasti tidak susah dalam menemukan orang yang dicari. Banyak terjadi apabila ada pemuda sudah berjumpa dengan pilihan hati, yang ada ciri-ciri, tetapi ditolak mentah-mentah kerana sifat diri yang tidak disukai, sifat suka menyakiti hati orang-orang terdekat menyebabkan sifat itu menjadi buah mulut orang , dan meneybabkan orang tawar hati untuk mendampingi seseorang, walaupun dia ada harta, ada muka, ada keturunan, tapi bila akhlak tiada, runtuh sebuah harga.
Sebutlah buah durian, pasti ramai yang tahu kesedapannya dan keenakannya. Dengan kesusahan untuk mendapatkan isinya, sudahlah buahnya tinggi di atas pokok, bila sudah jatuh, terpaksa pula menghadapi duri-durinya sampaikan ada yang terluka jika tidak tahu membuka isinya. Dari luar dilihat sangat hebat, tetapi bila sudah dibuka isinya , sudah busuk , pasti akan ditinggalkan begitu sahaja. Begitulah perumpaan bagi pemuda yang hebat,yang punya harta , muka, keturunan, tetapi jika akhlak tiada, pasti tiada siapa yang suka. Maka akan ditolak mentah-mentah segala yang datang darinya.
Bagaimana menjadi?
“Wan, aku kecewa la dengan muslimat ni, aku tak jumpa yang berkenan, ada tu, nampak baik tapi mulut laser, ade tu pulak macam menjaga bila depan kita, tapi last-last tau perangai dia, langsung tawar..”
“Ade je yang betul-betul baik. Cuma mungkin yang kau nampak yang ni je, sebab tu tak jumpa. Ramai muslimat kat atas muka bumi ni, kalau tak kat sini kat tempat lain. Usahakan menjadi, dalam menjadi ni, dua syarat utama yang insyaallah, boleh membantu. Petama, tundukkan pandangan ko, kurangkan mata tu melilau-lilau dengan wanita, nampak aurat orang, usaha palingkan, kernaa bila kita jaga pandangan mata ni, hati kita akan terjaga, bila hati terjaga dan bersih, masa tu kau boleh bezakan akan hak dan batil. Kedua, banyakkan puasa. Bila datang je ‘perasaan’ tu, puasalah, insyaallah, ia sedikit sebanyak membantu. Kerana ini pesan Nabi, bila Nabi pesan, banyak terkandung barakah dia. Dan bila makan tu, jangan selalu penuh atau berlebih-lebihan. Jaga makanan yang masuk perut tu. Dua ni cuba amalkan, dan yang lain-lain akan menyusul kemudian.”
Insyaallah, bila dua benda ni terjaga, kita akan dapat rasa nikmatnya ibadah tu. Untuk apa nak dapat nikmah beribadah ?
bila kita dah rasa nikmat ibadah, maka hati kita akan merasa sendiri cinta Tuhan itu tidak bertepi. Dan perasaan yakin akan datang pada kita, bahawa kita ni adalah milik Tuhan, jika kita berusaha mencintai Tuhan , maka Dia sendiri akan memberi orang yang juga mencintaiNYA kepada kita.Dan orang yang mencintai Tuhan, mendahulukan Tuhan dalam segala hal, adalah orang yang bertanggungjawab dalam hal dunia dan akhirat, dan yang pasti merupakan orang yang baik, soleh ,solehah dan muslih(menjadikan orang lain turut soleh). Itu suatu janji yang pasti.
Apa Kesudahannya?
Kerana apa kita bersusah-susah dahulu itu semua ini?..Kerana inilah janji Tuhan, “sesungguhnya setiap kesusahan pasti akan disusuli dengan kesenangan. Sesungguh-sungguhnya (Demi) setiap kesusahan pasti ada kesenangan”… Bila kita berusaha menjadi, dan sudah sampai masa untuk diri melangkah setapak dalam mencari redha Ilahi, disitu kita akan melihat rahmat disebalik kesemua kessusahan ini. Dengan bermula dengan mudahnya penerimaan orang yang dipinang, kemesraan ibu bapa sebelah sana, dan yang terpenting , mahar dan hantaran yang tidak membebankan , hanya cukup sebagai syarat sahaja. Ketika melihat hantaran inilah, jika kita melihat orang yang tidak menjaga diri sebelum itu, pasti pening apabila melihat harga hantaran yang terlalu menyiksa diri. Dimanakah mahu dicari duit sebanyak itu?..Jika tiada, maksudnya melepas si dia, sehinnga dia melihat bahawa perkahwinan itu umpama membeli si gadis dari keluarganya. Keresahan inilah yang sering membelenggu remaja-remaja.
Tetapi jika melihat kepada orang-orang yang menjaga diri mereka, dalam segala hal, perkahwinan mereka cukup lancar, mahar yang tidak terlalu rendah , dan hantaran yang tidak menyesakkan dada.Betul-betul dilihat bahawa perkahwinan penyempurna iman. Alhasil kita melihat, keluarga yang dibina, betul-betul boleh dilihat hasil ketenangan, kedamaian kerana keturunan yang dihasilkan betul-betul bermanfaat bukan sahaja untuk keluarga tetapi masyarakat juga sejuk dan gembira dengan kehadiran mereka. Kejayaan dalam keluarga inilah yang menjadi penentu di mana akhir kehidupan kita.
Sumber dari: BLog Umar Al Fateh
TONGUE-TWISTERS
Six sick slick slim sycamore saplings.
A box of biscuits, a batch of mixed biscuits
A skunk sat on a stump and thunk the stump stunk,
but the stump thunk the skunk stunk.
Peter Piper picked a peck of pickled peppers.
Did Peter Piper pick a peck of pickled peppers?
If Peter Piper picked a peck of pickled peppers,
where's the peck of pickled peppers Peter Piper picked?
Red lorry, yellow lorry, red lorry, yellow lorry.
Unique New York.
Betty Botter had some butter,
"But," she said, "this butter's bitter.
If I bake this bitter butter,
it would make my batter bitter.
But a bit of better butter--
that would make my batter better."
So she bought a bit of butter,
better than her bitter butter,
and she baked it in her batter,
and the batter was not bitter.
So 'twas better Betty Botter
bought a bit of better butter.
Six thick thistle sticks. Six thick thistles stick.
Is this your sister's sixth zither, sir?
A big black bug bit a big black bear,
made the big black bear bleed blood.
The sixth sick sheik's sixth sheep's sick.
Toy boat. Toy boat. Toy boat.
One smart fellow, he felt smart.
Two smart fellows, they felt smart.
Three smart fellows, they all felt smart.
Pope Sixtus VI's six texts.
I slit the sheet, the sheet I slit, and on the slitted sheet I sit.
She sells sea shells by the sea shore.
The shells she sells are surely seashells.
So if she sells shells on the seashore,
I'm sure she sells seashore shells.
Mrs. Smith's Fish Sauce Shop.
"Surely Sylvia swims!" shrieked Sammy, surprised.
"Someone should show Sylvia some strokes so she shall not sink."
A Tudor who tooted a flute
tried to tutor two tooters to toot.
Said the two to their tutor,
"Is it harder to toot
or to tutor two tooters to toot?"
Shy Shelly says she shall sew sheets.
Three free throws.
I am not the pheasant plucker,
I'm the pheasant plucker's mate.
I am only plucking pheasants
'cause the pheasant plucker's running late.
Sam's shop stocks short spotted socks.
A flea and a fly flew up in a flue.
Said the flea, "Let us fly!"
Said the fly, "Let us flee!"
So they flew through a flaw in the flue.
Knapsack straps.
Which wristwatches are Swiss wristwatches?
Lesser leather never weathered wetter weather better.
A bitter biting bittern
Bit a better brother bittern,
And the bitter better bittern
Bit the bitter biter back.
And the bitter bittern, bitten,
By the better bitten bittern,
Said: "I'm a bitter biter bit, alack!"
Inchworms itching.
A noisy noise annoys an oyster.
The myth of Miss Muffet.
Mr. See owned a saw.
And Mr. Soar owned a seesaw.
Now See's saw sawed Soar's seesaw
Before Soar saw See,
Which made Soar sore.
Had Soar seen See's saw
Before See sawed Soar's seesaw,
See's saw would not have sawed
Soar's seesaw.
So See's saw sawed Soar's seesaw.
But it was sad to see Soar so sore
Just because See's saw sawed
Soar's seesaw!
Friendly Frank flips fine flapjacks.
Vincent vowed vengeance very vehemently.
Cheap ship trip.
I cannot bear to see a bear
Bear down upon a hare.
When bare of hair he strips the hare,
Right there I cry, "Forbear!"
Lovely lemon liniment.
Gertie's great-grandma grew aghast at Gertie's grammar.
Tim, the thin twin tinsmith
Fat frogs flying past fast.
I need not your needles, they're needless to me;
For kneading of noodles, 'twere needless, you see;
But did my neat knickers but need to be kneed,
I then should have need of your needles indeed.
Flee from fog to fight flu fast!
Greek grapes.
The boot black bought the black boot back.
How much wood would a woodchuck chuck
if a woodchuck could chuck wood?
He would chuck, he would, as much as he could,
and chuck as much wood as a woodchuck would
if a woodchuck could chuck wood.
We surely shall see the sun shine soon.
Moose noshing much mush.
Ruby Rugby's brother bought and brought her
back some rubber baby-buggy bumpers.
Sly Sam slurps Sally's soup.
My dame hath a lame tame crane,
My dame hath a crane that is lame.
Six short slow shepherds.
A tree toad loved a she-toad
Who lived up in a tree.
He was a two-toed tree toad
But a three-toed toad was she.
The two-toed tree toad tried to win
The three-toed she-toad's heart,
For the two-toed tree toad loved the ground
That the three-toed tree toad trod.
But the two-toed tree toad tried in vain.
He couldn't please her whim.
From her tree toad bower
With her three-toed power
The she-toad vetoed him.
Which witch wished which wicked wish?
Old oily Ollie oils old oily autos.
The two-twenty-two train tore through the tunnel.
Silly Sally swiftly shooed seven silly sheep.
The seven silly sheep Silly Sally shooed
shilly-shallied south.
These sheep shouldn't sleep in a shack;
sheep should sleep in a shed.
Twelve twins twirled twelve twigs.
Three gray geese in the green grass grazing.
Gray were the geese and green was the grass.
Many an anemone sees an enemy anemone.
Nine nice night nurses nursing nicely.
Peggy Babcock.
You've no need to light a night-light
On a light night like tonight,
For a night-light's light's a slight light,
And tonight's a night that's light.
When a night's light, like tonight's light,
It is really not quite right
To light night-lights with their slight lights
On a light night like tonight.
Black bug's blood.
Flash message!
Say this sharply, say this sweetly,
Say this shortly, say this softly.
Say this sixteen times in succession.
Six sticky sucker sticks.
If Stu chews shoes, should Stu
choose the shoes he chews?
Crisp crusts crackle crunchily.
Give papa a cup of proper coffee in a copper coffee cup.
Six sharp smart sharks.
What a shame such a shapely sash
should such shabby stitches show.
Sure the ship's shipshape, sir.
Betty better butter Brad's bread.
Of all the felt I ever felt,
I never felt a piece of felt
which felt as fine as that felt felt,
when first I felt that felt hat's felt.
Sixish.
Don't pamper damp scamp tramps that camp under ramp lamps.
Swan swam over the sea,
Swim, swan, swim!
Swan swam back again
Well swum, swan!
Six shimmering sharks sharply striking shins.
I thought a thought.
But the thought I thought wasn't the thought
I thought I thought.
Brad's big black bath brush broke.
Thieves seize skis.
Chop shops stock chops.
Sarah saw a shot-silk sash shop full of shot-silk sashes
as the sunshine shone on the side of the shot-silk sash shop.
Strict strong stringy Stephen Stretch
slickly snared six sickly silky snakes.
Susan shineth shoes and socks;
socks and shoes shines Susan.
She ceased shining shoes and socks,
for shoes and socks shock Susan.
Truly rural.
The blue bluebird blinks.
Betty and Bob brought back blue balloons from the big bazaar.
When a twister a-twisting will twist him a twist,
For the twisting of his twist, he three twines doth intwist;
But if one of the twines of the twist do untwist,
The twine that untwisteth untwisteth the twist.
Untwirling the twine that untwisteth between,
He twirls, with his twister, the two in a twine;
Then twice having twisted the twines of the twine,
He twitcheth the twice he had twined in twain.
The twain that in twining before in the twine,
As twines were intwisted he now doth untwine;
Twist the twain inter-twisting a twine more between,
He, twirling his twister, makes a twist of the twine.
The Leith police dismisseth us.
The seething seas ceaseth
and twiceth the seething seas sufficeth us.
If one doctor doctors another doctor, does the doctor
who doctors the doctor doctor the doctor the way the
doctor he is doctoring doctors? Or does he doctor
the doctor the way the doctor who doctors doctors?
Two Truckee truckers truculently truckling
to have truck to truck two trucks of truck.
Plague-bearing prairie dogs.
Ed had edited it.
She sifted thistles through her thistle-sifter.
Give me the gift of a grip top sock:
a drip-drape, ship-shape, tip-top sock.
While we were walking, we were watching window washers
wash Washington's windows with warm washing water.
Freshly fried fresh flesh.
Pacific Lithograph.
Six twin screwed steel steam cruisers.
The crow flew over the river
with a lump of raw liver.
Preshrunk silk shirts
A bloke's back bike brake block broke.
A pleasant place to place a plaice is a place
where a plaice is pleased to be placed.
I correctly recollect Rebecca MacGregor's reckoning.
Good blood, bad blood.
Quick kiss. Quicker kiss.
I saw Esau kissing Kate. I saw Esau,
he saw me, and she saw I saw Esau.
Cedar shingles should be shaved and saved.
Lily ladles little Letty's lentil soup.
Amidst the mists and coldest frosts,
with stoutest wrists and loudest boasts,
he thrusts his fist against the posts
and still insists he sees the ghosts.
Shelter for six sick scenic sightseers.
Listen to the local yokel yodel.
Give Mr. Snipa's wife's knife a swipe.
Whereat with blade,
with bloody, blameful blade,
he bravely broached his boiling bloody breast.
Are our oars oak?
Can you imagine an imaginary menagerie manager
imagining managing an imaginary menagerie?
A lusty lady loved a lawyer
and longed to lure him from his laboratory.
The epitome of femininity.
She stood on the balcony
inexplicably mimicing him hiccupping,
and amicably welcoming him home.
Kris Kringle carefully crunched on candy canes.
Please pay promptly.
On mules we find two legs behind
and two we find before.
We stand behind before we find
what those behind be for.
What time does the wristwatch strap shop shut?
One-One was a racehorse.
Two-Two was one, too.
When One-One won one race,
Two-Two won one, too.
Girl gargoyle, guy gargoyle.
Pick a partner and practice passing,
for if you pass proficiently,
perhaps you'll play professionally.
Once upon a barren moor
There dwelt a bear, also a boar.
The bear could not bear the boar.
The boar thought the bear a bore.
At last the bear could bear no more
Of that boar that bored him on the moor,
And so one morn he bored the boar--
That boar will bore the bear no more.
If a Hottentot taught a Hottentot tot
To talk ere the tot could totter,
Ought the Hottenton tot
Be taught to say aught, or naught,
Or what ought to be taught her?
If to hoot and to toot a Hottentot tot
Be taught by her Hottentot tutor,
Ought the tutor get hot
If the Hottentot tot
Hoot and toot at her Hottentot tutor?
Will you, William?
Mix, Miss Mix!
Who washed Washington's white woolen underwear
when Washington's washer woman went west?
Two toads, totally tired.
Freshly-fried flying fish.
The sawingest saw I ever saw saw
was the saw I saw saw in Arkansas.
Just think, that sphinx has a sphincter that stinks!
Strange strategic statistics.
Sarah sitting in her Chevrolet,
All she does is sits and shifts,
All she does is sits and shifts.
Hi-Tech Traveling Tractor Trailor Truck Tracker
Ned Nott was shot
and Sam Shott was not.
So it is better to be Shott
than Nott.
Some say Nott
was not shot.
But Shott says
he shot Nott.
Either the shot Shott shot at Nott
was not shot,
or
Nott was shot.
If the shot Shott shot shot Nott,
Nott was shot.
But if the shot Shott shot shot Shott,
then Shott was shot,
not Nott.
However,
the shot Shott shot shot not Shott --
but Nott.
Six slippery snails, slid slowly seaward.
Three twigs twined tightly.
There was a young fisher named Fischer
Who fished for a fish in a fissure.
The fish with a grin,
Pulled the fisherman in;
Now they're fishing the fissure for Fischer.
Pretty Kitty Creighton had a cotton batten cat.
The cotton batten cat was bitten by a rat.
The kitten that was bitten had a button for an eye,
And biting off the button made the cotton batten fly.
Suddenly swerving, seven small swans
Swam silently southward,
Seeing six swift sailboats
Sailing sedately seaward.
The ochre ogre ogled the poker.
If you stick a stock of liquor in your locker,
It's slick to stick a lock upon your stock,
Or some stickler who is slicker
Will stick you of your liquor
If you fail to lock your liquor
With a lock!
Shredded Swiss chesse.
The soldiers shouldered shooters on their shoulders.
Theophiles Thistle, the successful thistle-sifter,
in sifting a sieve full of un-sifted thistles,
thrust three thousand thistles through the thick of his thumb.
Now.....if Theophiles Thistle, the successful thistle-sifter,
in sifting a sieve full of un-sifted thistles,
thrust three thousand thistles through the thick of his thumb,
see that thou, in sifting a sieve full of un-sifted thistles,
thrust not three thousand thistles through the thick of thy thumb.
Success to the successful thistle-sifter!
Thank the other three brothers of their father's mother's brother's side.
They both, though, have thirty-three thick thimbles to thaw.
Irish wristwatch.
Fred fed Ted bread, and Ted fed Fred bread.
Cows graze in groves on grass which grows in grooves in groves.
Brisk brave brigadiers brandished broad bright blades,
blunderbusses, and bludgeons -- balancing them badly.
Tragedy strategy.
Selfish shellfish.
They have left the thriftshop, and lost both their theatre tickets and the
volume of valuable licenses and coupons for free theatrical frills and thrills.
Mutiara Kata
The most destructive habit.....................................Worry
The greatest Joy...................................................Giving
The greatest loss...............................Loss of self-respect
The most satisfying work............................Helping others
The ugliest personality trait.............................Selfishness
The most endangered species...............Dedicated leaders
Our greatest natural resource...........................Our youth
The greatest "shot in the arm"..................Encouragement
The greatest problem to overcome............................Fear
The most effective sleeping pill...................Peace of mind
The most crippling failure disease.......................E xcuses
The most powerful force in life...................................Love
The most dangerous pariah.............................A gossiper
The world's most incredible computer.................The brain
The worst thing to be without. .................... .. Hope
The deadliest weapon....................................The tongue
The two most power-filled words............................"I Can"
The greatest asset................................................Faith
The most worthless emotion..............................Self-pity
The most beautiful attire.....................................SMILE!
The most prized possession............................. Integrity
The most powerful channel of communication.......Prayer
The most contagious spirit..........................Enthusiasm
